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Baby + Plane [Jul. 15th, 2007|02:59 pm]
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unsomnambulist
Recently a mother and her 19-month-old child were taken off a plane for her son's disruptive behavior (source) and later while being interviewed with Diane Sawyer the child was removed from the set after being disruptive (source). Feel free to read the articles and my own take was largely this was quite an emotionally driven story and I would still like to hear something from the flight attendant before I point a finger anywhere.

But this article has got me thinking: what are believable requests that can be asked of guardians with young children while on a plane? I think we can all agree a plane is a very specific and exceptional environment. Are there ever limits that could be asked and what are they?
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(no subject) [Jul. 15th, 2007|10:01 am]
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unsomnambulist
An interesting pattern: one who defines them self as childfree does not immediately entail that they define them self as feminist.

I have found this to be an interesting point lately as more often than not feminist childfree discussion seems consistently derailed because of: "Well look at that community over there!" So, what are your feelings and thoughts on this? Do you believe that childfree and feminism absolutely goes hand in hand or is this a mythic idea that consistently deviates from necessary childfree conversation?
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Childfree Channel [May. 28th, 2007|05:32 pm]
Child Free: Feminism
unsomnambulist
Checked the rules and this seems okay to post here but if it's unwelcome I'll take it down. Over the next few days/weeks I'll be doing a series of childfree related posts in my journal and anyone wanting to hop over and look or discuss is certainly welcome.
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Quite the Quandry [May. 27th, 2007|11:57 am]
Child Free: Feminism
unsomnambulist
I'm increasingly trying to be childfree vocal. This has happened as the result of two equally important threads in my life: (1) realizing how the childfree are consistently portrayed (if at all) in popular media and (2) my constant shock and surprise at my peers (I'm in my early 20s) who have never heard of the phrase or ever given thought to not having children. Fortunately, my SO is childfree as well and I have a lot of productive banter with him.

However, I have found that any time I make a childfree post in my LiveJournal that I (1) receive unhelpful comments, (2) unhelpful e-mails, and (3) unhelpful posts in other people's journals commenting on my post but not specifically linking to my post. I view my journal as a learning journal (for the most part) and by "unhelpful" I mean the comments slide into the standard fair of "selfish," "bitter," "going to die old and alone," and "you hate children and must hate women then."

And I really struggle and am at a loss about what to do. I think for the most part I'm handling it fairly well but how do you react to the negative tangents directed at the childfree? And specifically as feminists, how do you negotiate such harsh response directed at you from other feminists?
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(no subject) [May. 2nd, 2007|10:52 pm]
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leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |contemplativecontemplative]
[music |New Song - The Who]

A common anti-choice defense is "But your child might cure cancer/AIDS/etc!"

My question is, why can't I cure cancer? Why can't I work with some important aspect of service to the world, whether it's cancer research, environmental cleanup, or helping women in Africa obtain equal rights? Why do I have to depend on a hypothetical fleshloaf who, knowing my habits and the way I do my work, would probably become something not-so-nice in the long run? Besides, if I DID have a kid, who's to say they want to be an oncologist, doctor, scientist, or anything like that? Maybe my kid wants to be a welder or a circus ringmaster or a blackjack dealer. I suppose I was once one of those kids who "might cure cancer" and look what I'm doing--I'm spending months in the Arizona desert trying to help remove invasive species of plants.

I think that--rather than focusing on hypothetical children that people MIGHT have in the future and figuring THEY'LL cure cancer or fix the environment or obtain equal rights for all people SOMEDAY--we should focus on the scientists, both male and female, who are here NOW and doing great work for the world.



On a totally unrelated note: No, dammit, I DON'T need to know how to cure a six-year-old's ear infection. I need to know how to cure an ear infection occurring in a nineteen-year-old! ME! (I searched around WebMD and everything I found relating to the subject of ear infections was "Your child may, your child might, talk to your child's doctor if," etc. Even though I checked "18-24" in the "age" column when looking it up. Gah!)
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(no subject) [Mar. 30th, 2007|11:57 pm]
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leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |contemplativecontemplative]
[music |Gonna Get Ya - Pete Townshend]

I don't quite understand the problem that some Christians have with feminism ("some," not all--most of them are cool with it).

I think Jesus himself was a feminist--and aren't Christians supposed to emulate Jesus's words and actions of kindness and justice? He didn't seem to split between "chicks do this, guys do this, that's the way it is." He seemed to encourage equality between the Apostles--both male and female. He seemed to have a history of hanging out with all of the lower-downs in society--sinners, women, lepers, loonies, the poor, the blind, the possessed, the others who were variously afflicted.

But why do some of the more outspoken loonies among the Christians seem to turn down or block these people out, especially women? Fetuses--nonsentient creatures who can't live without their mothers--rank higher than women--independent, sentient creatures who can make their own informed decisions. Most of the quieter Christians are sane, awesome people who have their heads and hearts on properly, but some of the louder loonies are just infuriating.

What do you think? If you're religious, does your religion prescribe specific gender roles or does it advocate equality (of sorts)? Do you think religion is ultimately harmful to women and the women's rights movement?
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(no subject) [Feb. 14th, 2007|09:55 pm]
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leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |busy]
[music |Notorious]

Suggestions for Pro-LifersCollapse )

(crossposted to cf_hardcore)
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(no subject) [Feb. 5th, 2007|04:56 pm]
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leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |annoyedannoyed]
[music |The Unknown Soldier - The Doors]

I don't understand this total nonsense that giving your little girl the HPV vaccine will automatically make her into a mattress-dancing trollop as soon as she gets it. You know, if you raise your kid to be responsible, she probably will be. Giving your kid the fucking vaccine will not "interfere with the way you're raising your kids." It's making sure your girl is protected against the kind of virus that causes certain kinds of cervical cancer. She'll probably have sex in the future, and if she's had the vaccine, she won't have to worry so hard about one kind of virus invading her system.

Look, I've had tetanus shots, but that doesn't mean that, as soon as I got them, I went out to play fun-fun stabbity games with pointy, rusty objects that I found out in the junkyard across the street. My folks raised me to be responsible with my actions and to think for myself. Work that out, will ya?

While we're at it--capslock of rage time. FUCK ABSTINENCE-ONLY SEX EDUCATION! It's not WORKING! Everything I learned about sex, I learned from softcore Cinemax porn and Monty Python's Meaning of Life movie. I'm serious. All my school taught was that abstinence meant magical purity for all involved without all that icky sex, because as soon as you went down on each other, Susie ends up pregnant and riddled with 183 different kinds of disease, and Johnny's cock will explode... but look, as soon as you slip the wedding ring on, that all vanishes and you're free to do anything you want. BECAUSE ABSTINENCE AND MARRIAGE ARE MAGIC THAT WAY.

Let's face it, folks. Teenagers are going to have sex, whether we like it or not. I'm not particularly happy about it myself. But since they WILL, eventually, we might as well prepare them and make sure they know something--about anatomy, about risks, about sterilization, about prevention methods, about how to pleasure one another. I literally learned all I know from Cinemax movies--I'm 18 years old and never learned a single useful thing about sex. I had to go dig up a recent copy of Our Bodies, Ourselves and am currently reading that through, because it occurred to me that I knew very little about how my own body functions. I think it's depressing that lots of girls (and boys) have similar troubles, and still believe the retarded old wives' tales--like "you can never get pregnant on your first time." What, are the little spermlets gonna back down because they have Magic Virginity Sensors? "Back it up, boys, back it up! Freebie! This is a freebie!"

I'm not saying, "Let's watch porno in the classroom," or anything. It'd just be nice to run across a teenager who knows SOMETHING sensible and factual about their own body and how it works.
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(no subject) [Jan. 24th, 2007|08:54 pm]
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leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |contemplativecontemplative]
[music |Move Better in the Night - Roger Daltrey]

Not a Real Woman?Collapse )

P.S. The next person to use the term "wombyn" is going to be smacked upside the head with a slightly mushy bunch of turnips. STOP IT. There is nothing wrong with the word "woman". You are not a walking womb. Okay?
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A Trip to the Bookstore [Jan. 19th, 2007|08:16 pm]
Child Free: Feminism

leikomgwtfbbq
[mood |thoughtfulthoughtful]
[music |The Porpoise Song - The Monkees]

I picked up a book about fairies and sat down to read it over in the magazine section, which is the only part of the place that has chairs. So I plonked down and read about the sparkly, glittery, pretty fairies. But I looked up and noticed two sections labeled "Men's Interest" and "Women's Interest." Here's what it boiled down to:

MEN'S INTEREST: Bitchin' technological advances! Cars! Heavy fuckin' metal! Sexy women wrestling in whipped cream! Computer equipment! TV guides! How to play guitar in four easy lessons! How to pilot airplanes! Trains! Hiking! Backpacking! Maps! Become a bazillionaire on eBay! Publish your own book!

WOMEN'S INTEREST: Kids. Kids. Kids. Wedding. How to please HIM. How to please HIM. How to please HIM. Wedding. Cooking. Cleaning. Dieting. Dieting. Dieting. How to please HIM. Wedding. Kids. Cooking. Kids.

All of the parenting, wedding, cooking, and diet magazines were piled up in the "women's interest" section. The "men's interest" had all of the cool magazines. It seemed to extend the message of "this is what women are interested in--this is what men are interested in."

I was somewhat annoyed by this. I know quite a few guys who are really interested in learning how to make delicious cakes, organize gorgeous weddings, and throw cool parties, and I know several women who would rather read about how to fix a car's engine, how to publish their own books, and hiking the Sierras instead.

On a completely random note--why are so many women's magazines centered around "how to please HIM", in bed or otherwise? I want to publish a magazine for us, ladies--"How to please yourself! Discover what makes you tick! Self-discovery and the forging of your own destiny!"

What do you think about this whole "Kids-weddings-diets-cleaning is for WOMEN!! Technology is for MEN!!" stuff?
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