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Housewives and feminism [Jul. 10th, 2009|11:08 am]
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Elsewhere on LJ, I got crap from someone because I stated that I'm proud to be a loving, supportive wife, and that I'm happy with being the "great woman behind the great man." Apparently, to some, being a happy housewife means I can't have my own life and that I cater to my husband's every whim. *eyeroll*

So.... I'm asking y'all.... can a happy housewife still consider herself a feminist?
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Feeling stab-tacular [May. 6th, 2009|01:52 pm]
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So, I know many people are annoyed by my feminist ramblings on reproductive rights, but too bad, you can always push the "back" button. Anyway, I have been doing some informal research on the cost of health insurance for my future tubal ligation, and I have found that on average, which pregnancy costs removed, women pay far more than men on health insurance. Now, this is understandable,​ as pregnancy and birth control can be very expensive, but perhaps things would be less expensive overall if those of us who will not be using our uterus' can just get sterilized.
Of course, this cannot be allowed because my poor little delicate mind cannot possibly make a decision about my body, so tubal ligation is either not covered, or is denied. How does this make sense? I cannot escape my uterus and the costs of it. And people wonder why I wish to become a man, no more gynecologists, pap smears, birth control, sterilization denials, breast exams, abstinence bullshit, slut-​shaming.​.​.​ why on earth would I ever choose to stay female?
Anyway, I am still on my quest for a sterilization. Perhaps then my future health insurance plans will cost me less, and I wont have to deal with gynecologists anymore. There seems to be no downside to tubal ligations... other than still being female.
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(no subject) [May. 3rd, 2009|06:20 am]
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why do you automatically become a 24-7 on call babysitter whenever a family member has a baby? my sister and her husband have a 2 year old daugher who i do love and she is adorable, but I have no interest in being responsible for her. friday night she called me and asked if we could babysit for her. i declined and told her we had plans that night which was technically true because our plans were to stay in for the night. she called me again saturday afternoon practically crying and begging for me to babysit for just a few hours because she neeeeded to get out of the house and she never gets a break. um, isnt that what happens when you have a baby? i told her i wasn't feeling up to it which is also true, and told her to call our mom. ugh.

look, i am so happy for you that after decades of fighting for our gender to not be reduced to baby-making housekeeping drones you still choose to put your degree to waste and quit your job to dedicate your life to a baby, but i am not here to do your dirty work just because you want a break from the choice YOU made. i dont see you coming to MY work to give ME a break when i dont feel like working anymore, so why should i do it for you just because you had a baby?
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Annual exams are expensive without insurance! [Apr. 28th, 2009|02:01 am]
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[mood |annoyedannoyed]

I'm self-employed and live in a semi-rural area, and have not had health insurance for most of this decade.
I've lapsed on my annual exam, because last time I had one, it cost roughly $200, once I factored in gas and lab fees.
I have my tubes tied, so birth control isn't an issue.

A new women's clinic opened up part-time across the street from my Vet's. Hooray! :)
I figured I'd call to see if I could schedule an appointment, and how much it would cost.
If I want an annual exam, it's $220. That includes the exam & lab fees.
If I can come up with it before 5/14, I can get it done.
I'm fairly confident I can come up with the money, but it irks the heck out of me that I have to pay that much because I can't afford insurance!
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The Global War on Sex Education [Jul. 22nd, 2008|12:11 am]
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[mood |contemplativecontemplative]

Interesting article on how the Bush administration's foreign policy has impacted women's access to contraception, contraceptive advice and safe abortions in other countries, particularly developing nations.

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The comments are interesting to read, too. And by "interesting", I mean "they make you want to punch people".

Cross-posted to cf_hardcore
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Hello :) [Mar. 21st, 2008|12:56 am]
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[mood |happyhappy]

I've been a lurker for a long time, but finally a first time poster :). 

My name is Agatha and I'm from Toronto, Canada. I'm an undergraduate student at the University of Toronto with an English major. I want to be a librarian in the future and I'm currently employed as a bookseller.

I proudly identify myself as a childfree feminist and I love the movement, despite its flaws. I believe that this community is very important and unique and that deserves a paid account (now that I'm showing off, but I hope that the discussion here will become more lively!)

I often frequent childfree, but I often notice, to my dismay, that the community is not very feminist. Some post are even anti-feminist: I noticed that majority of the blame for being a  mad parent is put on mothers and not so often on parents. 

I'll write on more it later! I'm so glad that I found this community and I would love to see it as active as childfree!
 - Agatha 

P.S. I encourage the mod to take advantage of all the cool new features!  
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Feminism, choices, and children [Dec. 5th, 2007|12:18 am]
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Apparently I've pissed off someone on my flist for suggesting that not all single mothers are perfect saints and that having babies you can't afford is a bad idea. (I won't name her to avoid possible trolling and/or wank.) This came during a discussion about the meaning of feminism and whether identifying as "feminist" means that you have to support every stupid thing a woman does because she's a woman. She said no, but when I said that I don't support women having babies just because they can, especially when they can't afford them or want special treatment for having them, I got called a "conservative" and basically flamed.

So here's my question: we all know that feminism means being about the right to make choices. But does it mean that we have to support even the stupid or reckless choices? As women, we all have the right to have children; shouldn't we also have the duty to use that right responsibly? We all know that it takes two to create a child. Unfortunately, since only the woman can get pregnant, she has to shoulder a greater burden of the responsibity to prevent or raise a child - it's not fair, but life generally isn't. And let's face it, one woman's decision to have a child she can't afford and needs welfare to support, or to demand special privileges at work (time off, reduced workload) because she has kids, affects all of us. Should we have to shoulder the extra burden without complaint because we're feminists and it's for the chyylldrun and besides, it's her choice? Or do we have the right to say "Grow up and stop being a dumbass - it's not all about you"? To me, it's kind of like this: You have the right to own cats. But when you take in more cats than you can afford to feed and expect me to pay extra taxes to supply your cat food, or when I have to double my workload because you have to leave early every other day to take the kitties to playgroup, I should have the right to say "Maybe you shouldn't have so many cats." Why should it be different when we're talking about kids?

What are your thoughts on the subject?

X-posted to cf_hardcore
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(no subject) [Oct. 8th, 2007|03:12 pm]
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Dear community members!
Could you please recommend me some authentic books and articles about childfree aspect in American feminism?
I'm writing a bachelor paper and yearn for information!
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Applebee's vs. BFing [Sep. 7th, 2007|12:37 pm]
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[mood |okayokay]

I was perusing Feministing this morning, as I am prone to do once in a while, and I came across a post that confused me.
Women in 30 different states held demonstrations outside their local Applebee's recently to protest the restaurant's policy on breastfeeding.

Plans got started shortly after news about Brooke Ryan hit the Internet last week. Ryan went public after the manager of the Applebee's asked her to cover herself with a blanket while she breastfed her 7-month-old son in a booth in the back of the restaurant in June. According to officials, this request was in violation of a 2006 state law which prohibits any interference with a woman breast-feeding in public.

Applebee's responded by saying it would keep blankets so breast-feeding mothers can cover themselves.

You know, so no one would be offended by the oh-so-vile sight of a baby eating its lunch. But luckily, breastfeeding moms and their supporters organized online, and created nationwide action. Nice.

The part that confused me was the poster's comments that were supporting the lactivists.
Reading the comments I got more confused, barely anyone seemed to want to understand the other side that didn't want to see a baby sucking on someone's tit while they were eating dinner, or whatever.
One person's comment made me want to cheer though, because she seems to truly understand both sides correctly.
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Baby + Plane [Jul. 15th, 2007|02:59 pm]
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Recently a mother and her 19-month-old child were taken off a plane for her son's disruptive behavior (source) and later while being interviewed with Diane Sawyer the child was removed from the set after being disruptive (source). Feel free to read the articles and my own take was largely this was quite an emotionally driven story and I would still like to hear something from the flight attendant before I point a finger anywhere.

But this article has got me thinking: what are believable requests that can be asked of guardians with young children while on a plane? I think we can all agree a plane is a very specific and exceptional environment. Are there ever limits that could be asked and what are they?
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