|Housewives and feminism
||[Jul. 10th, 2009|11:08 am]
Child Free: Feminism
Elsewhere on LJ, I got crap from someone because I stated that I'm proud to be a loving, supportive wife, and that I'm happy with being the "great woman behind the great man." Apparently, to some, being a happy housewife means I can't have my own life and that I cater to my husband's every whim. *eyeroll*|
So.... I'm asking y'all.... can a happy housewife still consider herself a feminist?
Well, duh. Femimism is about CHOICE, women fought so you could CHOOSE your life. people who say that a woman should follow a limited lifestyle chocie are not feminists.
Whatever rocks your boat honey, and good for you for finding a life in which you're happy, not all of us can say that.
Without commenting either way on the OP's question, I wholly disagree that feminism is about choice without further value judgments on those choices. For example, it is not feminist to:
* Advocate, as Phyllis Schlafly has, that women should "know their place."
* Choose to accept unequal pay because it is "proper" for women to do so.
* Fight against a woman's right to abort.
* Bring up a child to embrace patriarchal gender roles.
We could go on and on.
Mainstream feminism is rife with examples of women making value judgments on other women's choices. A most obvious example is Katherine McKinnon's and Andrea Dworkin's campaign against pornography, including against the women who choose to not only participate as actors but those who write, direct, produce, and otherwise lead the industry. When feminism's trend disapproves of a certain choice, there is no hesitation to become downright patriarchal, such as in McKinnon's and Dworkin's accusations that women who disagree with their thesis are not truly making a choice or capable of making one due to being deluded or co-opted.
While feminism was a fight to allow women to make their own choices, NOT EVERY WOMAN'S CHOICE IS FEMINIST.
In all of those cases, you are are trying to force your choice on others. Feminism is wholly about one's right to choose for herself and herself alone.
But it is feminist for women to have that choice. The same way it is part of freedom of speech for someone to get up on a soapbox and argue for a totalitarian state. It's not advocating freedom of speech, but they have the right to say it regardless.